Self love is confronting. It holds up a mirror to the prison we tend to put ourselves in. Self love is not to be confused with arrogance or vanity. It is neither of those things. It's safety, respect, and space for our full humanity. It's accou

SPY 37: How to Meditate Your Ass Off

Aug 2nd, 2023 32m 58s

You guys. It feels like summer started yesterday for me. My husband and I had a picnic by the lake. I got to read in the sun, visit a brewery rooftop, play in the sprinkler with my pup. We had a fire in the backyard in the evening. I was fascin

SPY 36: Being an Emotional Adult

Jul 26th, 2023 16m 6s

Emotional Childhood is just a fancy term for chronic blame. Emotional Adulthood is a just a fancy term for habituated responsibility. In emotional childhood we blame all of our problems, emotions, life circumstances, and limits on the external

SPY 35: Respect Doesn't Require Fear

Jul 19th, 2023 34m 40s

Ever notice how respect is oftentimes confused with fear? We weren’t really taught to respect adults growing up… We were taught to fear them.To obey blindly, to conform swiftly, to fall in line or be punished! Subtly but surely over time, kids

SPY 34: Deserving vs. Committing

Jul 12th, 2023 13m 33s

Here’s a wild concept I want you to consider. The universe, God, whatever life force you believe to be in charge of things.. is not out here dividing and distributing some portions to the deserving folk, while withholding other portions from th

SPY 33: You Might Be Neurodivergent

Jul 5th, 2023 24m 27s

I could have been the poster child for neurodivergence if it was researched as equally in girls as it was in boys back in the 90s. Alas, it was missed, I was masked, and I wouldn’t fully discover the nooks and crannies of my brain’s MO until 30

SPY 32: The Most Powerful Exercise

Jun 14th, 2023 21m 32s

The most powerful exercise? No not physical exercise! You’ll have to ask someone else for that information. I mean, the most powerful LIFE COACHING exercise. If you haven’t already guessed, it’s an EMOTIONAL exercise.On today’s newest episode,

SPY 31: The Compare & Despair Cycle

Jun 7th, 2023 12m 40s

On today’s podcast episode I am inviting ALL of my listeners to join me on zoom tonight for the Compare & Despair Cycle Workshop! There will be massive revelations happening about this ol’ pattern we humans like to call compare and despair. Som

SPY 30: You Are Not Wrong: How to Unlearn Wrongness

May 31st, 2023 14m 12s

You are not wrong. Your existence is not wrong. Nothing has gone wrong. You are not wrong. Your existence has never been wrong. Nothing about you is wrong.You are not wrong. Nothing has gone wrong here. You are exactly where you are meant to be

SPY 29: The Spider Analogy and Our Fear of Feelings

May 24th, 2023 25m 4s

I'm going to make an audacious claim here. You are more afraid of your feelings than you even realize. I'm not saying that to try to judge or shame you. I'm saying that to bring awareness to something that is impacting your life in a monumental

SPY 28: The Worst That Can Happen

May 17th, 2023 27m 24s

This episode should probably be titled: "Trying to Hide From Shame" but I didn't think of that until after it was recorded.Last night at work I was met face to face with what I had been THINKING was the worst that could happen. The experience b

SPY 27: How To Be Naive

May 10th, 2023 18m 25s

To our ego, being naive is equivalent to being the sacrificial lamb about to be tossed into the flames. It’s dangerous, frightening, and intolerable. Our ego would much prefer that we already know everything—and be good at it—simply to create a

SPY 26: Just Because You Have A Thought, Doesn't Mean It's True

May 3rd, 2023 20m 42s

Say it with me! "Just because you have a thought, doesn't mean it's true!!"Here's what we all need to do. We all need to get a divorce from our thoughts. Right now, our toxic marriage to our thoughts is creating so much unnecessary suffering it

SPY 25: You Are Special And Also... You Are Not Special

Apr 26th, 2023 15m 49s

Have you ever gone to a doctors or a dentist appointment and expected to receive horrifying news about your body or your gums or your boobs? I have. Many times. Every time I go into a medical setting my body tenses up incredibly tight and brace

SPY 24: So What?

Apr 19th, 2023 21m 46s

If you were sharing something personal and then someone said, "so what?" in response to it, would you be offended? If you asked me this question pre 2017, (and if I had answered honestly) I would have said absolutely YES! My sensitive self was

SPY 23: Thought Errors

Apr 12th, 2023 17m 11s

What is really standing in the way of you and everything you want? It's not an uphill-100 year battle filled with sacrifice and blood oaths. It's not all the circumstances and people outside of you finally bending to your will. It's not hardshi

SPY 22: How to Be Unrealistic

Apr 5th, 2023 20m 58s

How often are you told to be UNrealistic? Not often. Most advisors/mentors/parents will say: “Be reasonable! Be practical! Don’t ask for too much! Play it safe!”This is what we’re taught. This is what we’re told is “right.”But I think it’s terr

SPY 21: The Ultimate Punishment

Mar 29th, 2023 16m 47s

When I was in kindergarten I got in trouble for telling a non-christian girl she would go to hell if she didn't accept Jesus into her heart. If I had gone to a christian school I probably would have been praised and gotten extra credit for evan

SPY 20: Identity Week-A FREE 5 Day Training

Mar 22nd, 2023 21m 44s

Welcome to a special episode of the podcast. You are officially invited to join me for Identity Week!Identity Week is a FREE 5 day intensive training on locating and eliminating the limiting identities that have been holding you back. I walk yo

SPY 19: Vision, Commitment & Action

Mar 15th, 2023 26m 24s

Most of us have no problem envisioning our own demise. We can picture horrifying images in our head of everything that could go wrong, all day long. All the fears, stress, and doubts are easily accessible. This type of envisioning is natural to

SPY 18: The Science of a Thought Form

Mar 8th, 2023 24m 45s

I say "thoughts cause your feelings" about 40 times a day. But I feel like the full impact of this sentence just isn't HITTING the way I intend it to. Today I am breaking down and dissecting this phrase, "thoughts cause feelings" and explain th

SPY 17: The Candy Land of Decision Making

Mar 1st, 2023 19m 54s

Hello my fellow earthling. If you have a hard time making quick decisions or getting unstuck, this is the episode for you. The reason your brain spins out in indecision and confusion is because you haven’t given it a clear destination to move t

SPY 16: The NEW Purpose of a Relationship

Feb 22nd, 2023 38m 45s

Are you tired of receiving the same old, ancient advice about relationships that no longer applies to this modern (late stage capitalism/divided and conquered) world? There are no more dowries to be handed out (maybe?) and women are allowed to

SPY 15: The Power of Personal Transformation Questions

Feb 15th, 2023 17m 17s

I used to go out to the bars on the weekends A LOT more than I do now. I was very eager to go drink some booze—as fast as I could— to finally take the edge off of my debilitating anxiety that I’d been suppressing all week. And while I got ready

SPY 14: Start from Sufficiency

Feb 8th, 2023 17m 55s

Back when I worked at a high end restaurant in downtown Anchorage, I didn’t have to clock in until 3 or 4 pm most days. Never having to set an alarm or rush out of the door by 8am was one of the main reasons I LOVED this job. I love and value (