Do you feel stuck in the cycle of victimhood after betrayal, believing thoughts like, “I’ll never trust again” or “I’m not enough”? In this week’s episode, Amie walks us through the “Victim to Chooser” framework sharing the progressive stages s

Will I Ever Heal? What Helps and What Hinders

15 days ago 36m 47s

Do you feel stuck wondering if you will ever heal from betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode Amie and Alana share their own experiences grappling with that exact question. They provide wisdom and practical tools for aiding your healing proc

"If He Would Just..." Why This Keeps You Both Stuck

22 days ago 30m 44s

Do you find yourself imagining all the ways things would be better “if he would just…”? If so, you’re not alone! In this episode Amie and Alana dive into this disempowering mindset and provide wisdom on shifting your thinking by focusing on wha

Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon

29 days ago 22m 46s

We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he

ADHD is Not An Excuse But An Explanation - with Luke Gordon

Apr 16th, 2024 40m 14s

Is your partner using ADHD or another diagnosis to excuse deception and bad behavior? In this episode, Alana and Amie welcome Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose Recovery Services and certified betrayal trauma coach) back to their podcast. Luke gi

What Does "Get In Your Body" Mean?

Apr 9th, 2024 35m 1s

Your body is keeping secrets - traumatic memories and intense emotions locked away at a cellular level. In this episode, Amie and Alana dive into the science of how the body “keeps the score,” storing experiences that your conscious mind has di

Is Ketamine Right For Me?

Apr 2nd, 2024 30m 25s

Imagine being able to rewire your brain to heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma and PTSD. Many who have tried ketamine say they have done just that. On this episode, Alana explains what ketamine is and how it can help receptors in your

Quit Moralizing Your Emotions!

Mar 26th, 2024 42m 38s

Are you constantly judging your emotions as good or bad? Do you feel guilty for experiencing “negative” feelings? In this episode, Amie dives deep into the tendency we often have of moralizing our emotions. Learn why it’s important to notice an

Why Addicts Need To Do Their Work Part II; Helping Children Heal with Luke Gordon

Mar 19th, 2024 33m 25s

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed by the damage caused by your addiction that giving up seemed like the only option? In this episode, Luke Gordon, cofounder and coach at Choose Recovery Services, as well as a father in recovery, opens up about

Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon

Mar 12th, 2024 31m 55s

This week we are excited to welcome Luke Gordon to the podcast! Luke is an emotional health coach and cofounder of Choose Recovery Services who specializes in helping men overcome unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors. Luke shares how disruptio

Supporting Teens and Young Adults Through Parental Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth

Mar 5th, 2024 39m 10s

When parents have experienced betrayal in their relationship, the entire family system is impacted. Teens and young adults are old enough to sense things are amiss, but may not understand everything that’s happening in their parents’ world. In

Attachment and Children as You Navigate Betrayal

Feb 27th, 2024 19m 55s

We know attachment can suffer between partners when there’s been betrayal or trauma, but how are our kids’ attachments impacted? In today’s episode, Amie and Alana unpack how to be a solid anchor for your children during hard times. Learn how t

Is It Me? Is It Him? Attachment Broken Down

Feb 20th, 2024 35m 46s

Do you ever feel tangled up in knots trying to understand where your relationship pain stems from? How can you tell if your pain is coming from childhood attachment wounds or current betrayal trauma? This week Amie and Alana help us learn how t

A.R.E. You There For Me? Attachment Practice Tool

Feb 13th, 2024 28m 26s

Have you ever felt disconnected, even when your partner is right beside you? In these situations, ask yourself, “A.R.E. you there for me?” Amie and Alana break down the acronym "A.R.E." to give you a tool to help you set the foundation for mean

Attachment Theory - When It's Helpful and When It's Not

Feb 6th, 2024 31m 28s

Do you crave deep connection but struggle to let partners in? Have you ever accused loved ones of being distant when they simply needed space? These behaviors could stem from your attachment style. Join Amie and Alana as they delve into attachm

Can Trust Be Restored After Infidelity?

Jan 30th, 2024 26m 45s

Trust is essential in healthy relationships, yet it is shattered by betrayal. Rebuilding that broken trust can feel impossible. In this episode, Alana tackles head-on the messy complexities around trust after betrayal. She offers insight into p

Are You Self-Rejecting?

Jan 23rd, 2024 25m 27s

If you’ve experienced betrayal in a relationship then you know what it’s like to feel rejected by your partner. But are you aware of ways you may be rejecting YOURSELF? In this episode, Amie sheds light on the topic of self-rejection. Learn wha

Unraveling Shame with Jess Kovic

Jan 16th, 2024 37m 8s

Am I enough? Am I worthy of connection? Am I worthy of love? If you have found yourself asking these questions, then you will want to listen in as Amie and Alana and their guest, Jess Kovic, talk all about shame. Jess is a certified life coach,

Don't Dance With WALTER!

Jan 9th, 2024 38m 16s

Although he’s always eager to take you for a twirl on the dance floor, Walter isn’t the dance partner you want. His toxic tango can cause you to constantly trip up in your relationships. So who is this Walter guy? WALTER is an acronym represent

Why Does Betrayal Trauma Hurt So Bad?

Jan 2nd, 2024 43m 32s

Betrayal cuts deep, and that wound causes intense pain and heartache. In this episode, Alana talks about why betrayal is so traumatic. She walks us through the three main areas that betrayal attacks and outlines the six stages of healing. Liste

Laughing With Us, At Us; Blooper Time!

Dec 26th, 2023 29m 49s

Happy Holidays! Alana and I are so grateful to all you listeners and feel so blessed to hear from all of you and the support you feel from this podcast.Many of you will write in and kindly assume that we have it all together, so today we thoug

6 Practices Your Grief Needs From You; With Kim Brown

Dec 19th, 2023 29m 6s

When you have experienced trauma or betrayal, grief and sadness feel like constant companions. Kim Brown, a grief educator, APSATS candidate, and certified betrayal trauma coach at Choose Recovery Services joins Amie and Alana this week to help

When Doing More Means Doing Less

Dec 12th, 2023 14m 7s

“I have to do it all! I have to BE it all!” If you often find yourself thinking these things, then this episode is for you! Amie and Alana share practical tips for finding balance amidst the seasonal chaos. If you feel overwhelmed and pressured

Surviving the Holidays: Road to Recovery Webinar

Dec 5th, 2023 53m 28s

The holidays can be a tricky time under the best of circumstances, but in the aftermath of a betrayal, they can feel impossible. This week’s episode offers a no-nonsense guide to surviving the holiday season. If you’re tempted to run and hide d

Healing IS Possible; With Staci Somes LPC NCC

Dec 2nd, 2023 41m 52s

After nearly two decades of marriage, Staci Somes found herself at a crossroads far too many women face: should I stay or should I go? Join Amie and Alana as they talk with Staci, a licensed professional counselor and coach at Choose Recovery S